When should significant other meet my kids?

Dear Dr. Patty Ann,

My kids are 5 and 6 years old, the oldest a girl, the youngest a boy. Their Dad left us four years ago, the dirtbag. Forget him, my question is this, there is this great guy I met and we have gone on four dates by ourselves so far. We are really getting along. When do I have him meet my kids and how do I introduce him to them? He knows I have children. He does not have kids and he has never been married.

~ Hoping the Second Time is a Charm in Nashville

Hoping the Second Time is a Charm in Nashville,

Awesome you think you have a great guy! I would say four dates is way too early to introduce him to your kids, especially because your children are so young. My suggestion is to wait until you have dated this man for 6 months or so and then, if your feelings for this guy are still strong, and you think you have a future together, then you can have him meet the kids. Each situation is unique but you do want to take your time before you introduce him to them so you avoid the “revolving man door”. Nothing replaces time to get to really know someone! Hope your second time is a charm too!

Dr. Patty Ann
Relationship Advice Expert

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