Dear Dr. Patty Ann,My boyfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago after being with me for eight years. He said that he does not see a future right now. I was taken by surprise because he has been treating me no differently since the day I met him. Weird thing is 24 hours before he dropped the ball, he said he loves me and a few weeks before that he let me know that he wanted to get married. Oddly enough, he broke it off with me right before three of our friends’ weddings. I wanted to give him some space so I have not really had any contact with him for a few weeks now and he had contacted me twice within these weeks. We had a brief conversation which seemed so normal. He asked me how I was doing and what I have been up to. He then let me know that I still have a place in his heart. I miss him terribly and still have a little hope that he will come around. We never fought and have so much in common, it is like a dream. He is a fantastic person. None of it makes sense to me. I have been looking for answers and am hoping you have some advice for me.
- Anonymous in PA
Thank you for reaching out to me with your painful situation. Many times a guy gets “cold feet” before he is ready to propose. This may or may not be the case – but I understand your confusion since everything seemed fine (or so it seemed) with the relationship right before he broke up with you. If it wasn’t cold feet – then clearly everything was not fine. You cannot make someone love you if they don’t however, if your boyfriend is just confused, I suggest you can win him back – with patience and some proven strategies and skills.